Jeremy Gates

Jeremy Gates

“Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.”
― Marshall Rosenberg

Jeremy is an experienced facilitator, mediator, and couples counsellor. His style is gentle and friendly. He has a special interest and is trained in the use of nonviolent communication (NVC) or compassionate communication to manage and transform conflict.

He is also trained in the Gottman Method of family and relationship therapy, and has 20 years of training in using Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP (used by NASA). He is passionate about helping his clients use the power of their minds to ‘create better problems’ for themselves, since he believes we will always face challenges, but fun problems are better than painful ones. He works with individuals from a range of backgrounds and with a range of issues including conflict and dispute resolution, interpersonal communication, stress management, low motivation, and performance anxiety.

Jeremy helps his clients to:

  • Find ways to express clearly what is happening without blame or judgement;
  • Rebuild trust in relationships by communicating feelings clearly and non-judgementally;
  • Express the unmet needs which underlie difficult feelings;
  • Listen and connect with the needs of one another;
  • Clarify what the parties can do cooperatively to manage or resolve conflict, through agreement of specific strategies or behaviour changes.

Here is what a recent client had to say about Jeremy:

“I feel like I have been getting a lot out of the sessions and it’s really been helping me; not only for myself but also in my relationships. I have learnt so much from you and I can’t thank you enough”.

Jeremy is unbiased. He encourages all clients to take responsibility for their own feelings, needs, reactions and actions. Jeremy is a warm-hearted and intelligent facilitator. His ability to utilise his extensive repertoire of skills enables him to set realistic goals and stimulate new resources, new choices, and new insights that naturally lead to meaningful mental, emotional and behavioural changes in his clients.

In his spare time, Jeremy likes to run, study kung-fu, write haikus about being a parent, and perform stand-up comedy.